I must confess…I am already media weary. So much in the news today revolves around sexual aggression, infidelity and the courts of law have the responsibility to try and make a case for and against. I will not judge and I cannot defend Jian Ghomeshi and Bill Cosby. Nor will I enter into any kind of judgment about the allegation going on in Ottawa on Parliament Hill involving two Members of Parliament. But I do pray and I hope and believe that the justice system will do what God intends it to do and to be.
I must also confess that I shake my head and wonder again at the sinfulness of man, and how we have exchanged God’s truth for a lie…a beautiful union of a man and woman with forcible animalistic aggression. God has designed the sexual relationship between a man and a woman to be a gift for the marriage relationship only…beautiful within the confines of the marriage bed. But really, if only the world…would just stop and think for a minute…how far can sex be twisted, perverted and mis-used? Is there no longer any kind of sense of shame? Is there no desire for something better and even more beautiful? I know that many who would read this blog would dismiss me in the first paragraph as a “religious Bible thumper“. But this evening I am trying to write from the heart to explain how my heart aches for this world, please know that this is not meant to be a “rush to judgment” essay to ostracize and condemn these people…it is simply a desire on my part to express the heart ache that comes as a result of respecting and being disappointed in people we have held in high regard.
I pray for Jian Ghomeshi and Bill Cosby…where did they go wrong? Where was their father to model for them proper gentlemen’s courtesy and loving-kindess to women? Did thy not learn respectful masculinity, power under control? Basic traits of a gentleman…is there such a thing any more? Did they even have that model? What would make them abuse their role of power and influence? Questions that even the best psychoanalysts would probably struggle to find a satisfactory answer…but I am certain they would have their theories and a desire to help and investigate.
And I also pray for those who have been hurt and abused by these men and their influence. The abuse of power and authority is a bitter task-master and the shame that comes as a result confuses and distorts their self-worth and a healthy God given desire for normal sexual relations. Hopefully they can know the true love that God means for mankind to know and experience.
I am saddened because they are public people who have held public respect and popularity, and now the public that once adored them are now confused about whom to respect and whom to trust. My own young family, who as yet do not understand what the full allegations are all about, are thrown into a tornado of epic proportions because we have watched many episodes of The Cosby show as if it were written for us.
I am also humbled to realize that there is not a whole lot of difference between me and my sinfulness and that of Mr. Cosby and Mr. Ghomeshi. I too share the same sinful propensity. Knowing this however causes me to fall back on the grace of God and know His forgiveness and His cleansing and a new purpose for life.
Jesus is a friend of sinners. And I am sure that if given the chance Jesus would sit down with both Bill and Jian and talk to them like a brother and speak into their shame and their sin and show them how much He loves them regardless of what they have done…and how He died for them and their sin. He offers to them cleansing, a new heart and a new start. And I am certain that if they met my Jesus, the Jesus of the Bible, they would know His grace and forgiveness and the burden of shame would be lifted.